Eat Drink & Be Mary: 4 Things To Do After Getting Engaged

3.19.2015

4 Things To Do After Getting Engaged

Today I am so excited to have a fellow bride-to-be take over here today.  Erica has quickly become a genuine friend, and she has some serious insight into engaged life.  Not to mention the way her fiancé asked is too cute.  Enjoy y'all, thanks Erica.

4 Things to do after getting engaged.

Mary and I are like blog sistahs from other mistahs. But jumping right to the chase, we’ve both got shiny gems on our left hands from our own misters, and the excitement is unreal. While we’ve been emailing our own plans and journeys to one another, I’ll drop a few hopefully helpful hints here for any of you engaged or soon-to-be-engaged chicas on what has proven to be beneficial in the near two months since I said “absolutely.”

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1. You’re newly engaged to the love of your life, and you’re flying high on Cloud 9. The first thing you’ll be asked after “will you marry me?” will probably be (if someone hasn’t already beat me to it) “So when are you thinking?” You won’t be half near recovered from the blissful shock before being expected to have it all together and be halfway to signing the caterer papers. But take it in stride – it’s a conversation starter from people who are hopefully genuinely excited about you taking such a big, beautiful step in your relationship. You aren’t really expected to have a date immediately after securing your mate! But…

2. One of the first things to do as a newly engaged couple (right after spending some quality time together to cherish your new relationship status) is to chat about the when and where. For J and I, this was our biggest hurdle. Luckily, we grew up in nearish areas, so having it in my hometown wasn’t a big inconvenience for anyone involved. Ironically though, the tensions arose on my parents side, when my dad unexpectedly brought up his own thoughts and expectations for my big day and was upset when my initial plans didn’t immediately align. Be ready to have some tougher conversations while maintaining your bliss!

3. After you’ve got an idea of the when and where, start shopping around. To really maximize your money and energy, you’ll need to have a gameplan for your vision. Since you just got engaged, there’s no need to have it all figured out and close to Pinterest perfect; my recommendation is to start outlining a “save” versus “splurge” list for all of the wedding biggies with your fiancé. Are fabulous photos your biggest priority? Have “photographer” on the splurge side to ensure your memories are mantelpiece ready. Are you artsy – or have an artistic friend – and have a knack for designing save the dates? Booyah – you just saved yourself tons on postage and printing, and they’ll be personalized and just as nice. This helps in creating your overall realistic vision for the big day and really solidifies your choices.

4. Have fun. Everything is going to go by SO QUICKLY once it starts. J and I had nothing until a few weeks ago – now our fall 2016 wedding is halfway planned, and it all happened in one weekend! Be open to opportunities as they come, and remember to enjoy every second. You’re only engaged once (fingers crossed!), and you have the rest of your life to be a married woman. Keep your wedding planning binder at bay sometimes and just live in the engaged moment. YOMO (You Only Marry Once)


This perfect ring plate is from none other than Mary. I see why we all love her here...
This perfect ring plate is from none other than Mary. I see why we all love her here...




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 Are any of you engaged already? I’d lovelovelove to hear your thoughts on first steps as a fiancé, so please do leave a comment and hop on over to Coming Up Roses to say hi and tell your thoughts. I’m figuring it all out as I go and soon launching a Friday Brideday to divulge details, and I’d love to have you along for the ride to the aisle! Plus now accepting any and all tips for success here kaythanks. 


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13 comments:

  1. Nice to "meet" you Erica and hear your wedding tips! I am recently engaged as well (Jan. 2, 2015) and I like how your wedding date is also a ways off. Ours is May 13, 2017. We have plenty of time to plan and save up money. I think this is one of my biggest pieces of advice--go with a timeline that works best for YOU as a couple. Yes, my fiance and I have gotten some disbelief and exclamations from a few friends as to why we are waiting 2 years to plan our wedding day. But we would much rather have time to enjoy the engaged life, save up money, and not rush anything!

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  2. Hi Kaylin - so nice to meet you, too! WOW I love hearing that you guys are just doing your own thing and giving yourself time! Also we got engaged a little over 2 weeks apart...major congratulations to you. (: great fiances think alike! That's so smart of both of you, and special that you get ample time to enjoy the engaged life together! Do you have ideas under works for your wedding day yet??

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  3. Thank you thank you thank you for having me over, Mary! It's always so fun working with you and chatting with you, and the genuine friend feelings are likewise! Can't wait to follow your journey to the altar. (:

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  4. YOMO has to be one of my new favorite hashtags. I am totally going to be borrowing that one when my turn finally comes.

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  5. Indeed, it looks like they do think alike! Thank you so much and of course, congratulations to you with your journey to becoming married as well! I hope to follow along with your marriage journey and stories on your blog. :) We do not have a lot of plans yet, but our first priority right now is picking out the venue. We want to get married in Arkansas since we are both from here and our families live here (we are moving to Texas this Summer). Definitely more of a rustic wedding with plenty of outdoors appeal is what we are thinking. If I just got married under a beautiful big tree with a simple adorned backdrop and some mason jars filled with flowers, I'd be happy. :)

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  6. I got engaged in September 2012 and we didn't get married until June 2014. People thought we were crazy for having such a long engagement, but it totally worked for us. Plus, we were able to not be crazy stressed leading up to it and we got to have everything that we were wanting. It definitely worked out for us, even though I know long engagements aren't for everyone. Saving money was also a huge thing for us as well. I didn't want to go in to debt to help pay for our wedding - that wasn't going to happen!

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  7. Isn't that too funny! You only marry once for sure...

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  8. Erica I loved having you. Having a friend that's engaged at the same time is so much fun, so I've loved your insight. :)

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  9. These are really great steps to follow once you are engaged. Less than an hour after we got engaged people were asking for the date, luckily this was something we had already talked about :)

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  10. Us too, isn't that crazy!! We knew the month we wanted to get married in..but I didn't want to share the date until we for sure had the venue secured on that date.

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  11. These are fantastic ideas! I especially love the "have fun" one. Engagements are such a short period of your life!!

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  12. Thank you so much, Macy! And RIGHT?! It's crazy. It really helps when you have someeee sort of idea. Hope to see you on Coming Up Roses in the near future. (:

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  13. Thank you so much, Meg! And "have fun" is definitely one of the most important things I think! They're SO short in the grand scheme of things...gotta make the most if it all! Hope to see you over on Coming Up Roses sometime. (:

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