Eat Drink & Be Mary: If You Could Write a Letter to 18 Year Old You, What Would You Say?


If You Could Write a Letter to 18 Year Old You, What Would You Say?

How many times have you thought to yourself, if I only knew then what I know now?  More than a handful I'm guessing.  

Sometimes I think if only 16-year-old me would've known that boy didn't matter, or thank God I listened to my friend about "blank" who knows where I would be now if I didn't.  

Imagine if you could have found a letter from a future you.  Tela's from Sweet Southern T would go a little like this...


With everyone starting back to school it always brings back a bit of nostalgia for me.  Now that I have littles of my own I try to put myself in their shoes and remember what it felt like to be a rising student at whatever age they may be that year.  My high school and college years were the most memorable and also the hardest for me.  If I could write a letter to myself at 18, it would go a little like this...

Dear Tela,

I hope this letter finds you well.  You probably were expecting it as you live your life like it should be something from a country song.  Don't worry a really awesome country singer named, Brad Paisley writes a song about just this very thing in a few years.  You will love it!

I wanted to give you a few pointers that I have learned along the way that may help you as you go through this journey called life.  

Don't take those beautiful mountains you live in for granted.  Trust me you will miss them when you are gone.

Pay attention and don't just act interested when Momma tries to show you how to make her secret recipes. One day you are going to want chicken and dumplings and will be too far away to have them made for you. Oh and don't roll your eyes at everything she says.  You will come to find out she really is right and is always there for you even if you don't think so. Don't ever be ashamed of her or her silly ways. She is the woman God chose to be your mother and you will realize he made a perfect choice!

Cherish those friends that you have made.  The few close ones that you share all of your secrets with.  I know you don't think it could ever be possible that anyone you see everyday at school could ever leave this earth, but trust me it will happen!  Too many in your graduating class will not make it to see even their 25th birthday much less their 30th.  

Don't go chasing after boys.  They will come to you and when they do be strong!  You know who you are and their sly words shouldn't change that.  I promise God has a plan for you and Mr. Right will come along in His time.

Have a little fun!  Don't take things so seriously.  There is enough time for that in the future.  I know you think you have a ton of responsibilities now, but you better enjoy this freedom while it lasts.

I know senior year can be stressful trying to find where you want to go to school and what you will major in. Don't stress so much!!  You will go to school for what you love, but that won't be what you do for the rest of your life because you will change your mind.  So, now is not the time to stress over what to do with the rest of your life.  Just roll with it!

You will make some wonderful new friends.  They will become your family, your sisters, and once you leave college, they will still be there for you even though you haven't seen them in quite a while!

You have so much going for you.  You are doing great!  Don't be afraid of the future, it will all work out amazing for you.  Although it may be hard at times, remember to put your trust in God and he will carry you through.

You will achieve so much more than you can imagine.  Keep your head up and your feet moving.  Make every moment count and treat people with kindness.  You never know when you may need them again. Don't take anything or anyone for granted and thank God daily for everything he has blessed you with.
Good luck girly!  I know you will do great.
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That letter seriously gave me chills.  How incredible it would be to find a letter like this from an older you, ensuring everything will be okay.  I suppose life wouldn't be quite the crazy ride it is, now would it?  

What would you tell 18 year old you?  Have you ever written a letter to yourself -- put the link in the comments.  Does the back-to-school madness have you feeling nostalgic?

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  1. This is awesome. I always think about what I would say to myself if I could go back in time. Would I prevent myself from making bad decision or would I just give myself advice on how to get through them because they made me who I am? It's crazy but the good kind of crazy.

  2. Great question. I'll have to think about this one.

  3. Thanks Mary for letting me guest post this on your beautiful blog! It actually made me cry when I read it again this a.m. I haven't read it since I sent it to you. Ha! Thanks again!

  4. This is so great! :) I just wrote a post similar to this yesterday as a note to my college freshman self! It's definitely funny to think about how much we worry and look back through the years and see where God has brought us. If only we could really have a future version of us to tell ourselves that!

    Also, I love the part about your mom. My mom has become one of my best friends over the years and that part of your letter was just so sweet! :)

  5. This is so so sweet! What a cool way to reflect!

  6. Oh my! If only I knew then what I know now.... life would be so much easier. haha! Hindsight is always 20/20.


  7. One thing I'd tell my 18 year old self is to listen to my parents cause they're gonna be right, and I'm gonna be wrong.

  8. If I could tell younger myself anything, I think I would tell young and carefree Stephanie to do everything and anything she could imagine because one day those chances are gone.

  9. This is actually something that I've been thinking about lately because I'm in a college class with advanced high school students and they're all 16-18 and I feel so old. I don't feel like it's been that long since I was their age and then I remember that they're the age of my sister and that was 8 or 9 years ago. And then I remember ALL of the silly things that I did.

  10. Oh how I adore this post! I've often thought of doing a similar post. I think you've inspired me to do it! Will add to my list of posts. :)

  11. really great letter! It's a strange thing to think about, but I think it definitely shows how much we grow as we get older.

  12. I would tell myself to enjoy the time because it passes too fast

  13. I love this! One thing I would tell myself. Is to not hold back and reach for your dreams!


  14. This is really great! I feel like I wish I would have been able to write a letter to myself when I was 18 right now, oh how different things would have been I'm sure! This was a wonderful post!

  15. I would definitely tell myself to stop taking everything in life so seriously. I was so stuck to a plan that I often forgot to stop and smell the roses. I missed out on a lot because of that.

  16. Hmm, maybe I should write a letter to myself. That would be interesting

  17. These types of letters are such a great way to reflect on what is going on and what you learned from a situation. I did these all the time at leadership camps throughout college and my counselor would then mail them to us randomly throughout the year. The letters always seemed to come during an important moment in that year's leadership position.


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