Eat Drink & Be Mary: Long Distance Taught Me...

6.23.2014

Long Distance Taught Me...

I met my boyfriend my junior year of college, and we began dating right before summer break that year (read more of our story here).  We both graduated this past December, and have been loving from afar ever since.  Our two year anniversary is later this week, and so I thought I'd share what I've learned these past six months that we've been apart.







Long Distance Taught Me...

...that love knows no distance.

...to have patience.

...to not just go for what is more convenient.

...that home is where the heart is.

...that baking is much more fun when my best taste tester is in kitchen with me.  He's never met a dessert he didn't like & there will be less left over to tempt me.

...that communication is key.  And only texting doesn't cut it.

...that trust & honesty are the foundation of a solid relationship.  Without those two a relationship will not work long distance.

...driving 4 hours just to turn around and do it all again 2 days later is worth it.

...(speaking of driving) that I have odd road trip antics.

...God's timing is perfect.  Whether it is what we want at the time or not, God has a plan.  A plan to give us hope and a future, and we need to trust his timing.
...that to rely on each other for strength isn't only okay, but encouraged.  It's tough on both people in the relationship, not just yourself. 

...he is worth it.  



And when you've found someone that is worth the distance, and not seeing each other ever day knowing eventually you will everyday for the rest of your life.  Hold tight.

Being in a long distance relationship is hard.  It takes work.  Hard work.  And a strong commitment.  It's easy to give up and go for something convenient, but that doesn't mean it'll make you happier.  Many people will tell you that you're crazy for being in a long distance relationship.  But when you're meant to be you can find a way to make it work.  And it's totally worth it, so I'm told.


What is one thing a long distance relationship (of any kind) has taught you?  What is your best piece of relationship advice?  Have you been in a long distance relationship before?


 
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38 comments:

  1. It always bothered me when I'd hear people say that long-distance relationships were too hard--before I'd even been in one to know any better. And I'd always think, if you really want it to work, it's not too hard! Then, as you know, I ended up in a long-distance relationship with my now husband. And we did not get to see each other much at all during those months. It was crazy hard. Yet we never complained that maybe it was just too hard--cause it was us! And we were meant to be. :) My one tip is Skype! Skype got us through! ;) So glad you all got to spend so much time together this week--soon it'll just be a happy memory, and you guys'll be like, Hey, remember when we were long-distance? :)

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  2. I love this. I've been having a long distance relationship for almost 7 months come July 6th and it's been great. Would be even better if we saw each other more. instead of like every 2 months. Communication is the key. Trust. Patience and yea he's worth it. Plus, prayer and having God in your life is the key.

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    1. I've actually had at least 5 out of the 8 that i've dated. counting the one i'm in now. and it all works if you two are willing to work at it. It gets way better over time and will last if you two work at it. It can't be 100% to 50% or less. It has to be 100% or ever 110% on each end. me and mine talk lots daily and even write each other.

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  3. I have had to do long distance twice now with my husband (once when we were dating, once when we were married), it is not fun but it does make you appreciate one another!

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  4. The way I feel about LDR's is that they aren't hard (unless it's with the wrong guy, cause for me, those were horrible). When we made it seem hard, it was, but when we made it seem easy, it was just that. We were only apart for a year, but during that year, we got engaged and planned a wedding. We made the distance seem like it wasn't there because we didn't want it to seem like we were apart. We had fun with it - played lots of card games via Skype, emailed A LOT (mine included photo booth photos of me and my cat), and saw each other when we could.

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  5. My husband and I have spent the majority of our marriage long distance via deployments, training, and being stationed on separate coasts for a year! As much as it sucks, it truly gives you an appreciation for each other!

    -Hana
    www.domesticatedcombatboots.com

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  6. Very nice post. Do you think you will move closer soon?

    ~Ashley @ A Cute Angle
    acutelifestyle.blogspot.com

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  7. Jim and I were long distance for 3 of the 4 years we dated before we got married. He lived in Kansas City. I lived in Virginia!! But, like you said, when you are committed to each other you just make it work and YES he is absolutely 1000% worth it.

    And good call on the not just texting :) You can be creative and find lots and lots of ways to communicate!

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  8. Long distance definitely takes some hard work but it's definitely doable. I love what you said about texting not being enough for communication because it's so true. Skype has been been a saving grace for me and my hubs but I'm also a huge fan of writing letters when hubby and I can't talk on the phone. Great post!!!

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  9. Hold on tight! I love that! If you guys can survive this, you can survive a lot of things, great post!!

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  10. before i was in a long distance relationship, i always said i would never be in one. then i met this guy, spent 4 days with him and i knew he was the one. we did long distance (US to Aus) for a year and a half, one month visit, 2 months away and it was awesome and amazing and horrible and terrible. communication is key, it really taught me so much about insecurity and how easy it is to read something the wrong way. i was more worried about Armageddon or something than him cheating on me, and i missed him all. the. time. sometimes long distance doesnt work out though, womp womp. we broke up right before i was going to move to the US - jerk. haha jk. a little over a month after i moved, we got back together and are happily married now. long distance is hard, and it was super hard on us because we never had the normal relationship first. it feels like a different relationship now, but in a good way. sounds like you guys have an awesome, strong relationship ;) and i'm sorry for the ridiculously long comment.

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  11. I love this post! My husband and I were long distance for a little over a year and it was so tough. It takes a lot of trust and prayer.

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  12. I've never had a long distance relationship but I'm positive that a successful one would need open, honest lines of communication and prayers! I'm so glad you have a great example of what a positive long distance relationship looks like.

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  13. This is a great post! I've been in a long distance relationship for a year and it's definitely tough but it's all worth it :)

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  14. What a great post! My (amazingly-hot-and-incredible) man and I are 8,000 miles away, for at least eleven months. We met my freshman year of university (he was a student), and he just graduated this past May. Though we met back in 2012, we didn't start dating until this year. He was born in Hong Kong (and living there temporarily now), and I'm in Canada, in my junior year, studying Elementary Education.

    It's hard. Especially with an 11 hour time difference. We don't put on a face and act like it's easy. Because it's not. Sometimes the distance plain 'ol SUCKS. But honestly, there's no one else I'd rather share my life's journey with. He's incredible and so, so, so, worth everything.

    Praying for you and yours as you conquer this distance! Keep on keeping on.

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  15. I really enjoyed your post. My fiance and I have been together but apart for three years and still have a year and a half till we can finally be together. It's very hard to do but it is worth it if it's with the right person.

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  16. I agree completely! It's so dificult, but I couldn't imagine giving any of it up *just* because of the distance. When the person is worth it, distance doesn't mean anything. Let me know if you ever need someone to talk to.

    Mary



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  17. I am in a long distance relationship and I found this on Pinterest today, and today I needed it. It's funny how things happen for a reason. I haven't seen my boyfriend for a little while and it's starting to get to me. It's hard, very hard. Once you find your forever, you want forever to start now but it doesn't work that way some times. I've learned that I need to have more patience.

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  18. Everything is definitely for a reason; I'm glad you came across my post. I feel exactly like you do; I want forever to start now. Even though I'm working on my patience I need to work on it everyday!

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  19. Samantha Christlee BudimuljaNovember 16, 2014 at 12:16 PM

    thank you for this very sweet article. this is so great. i'm in a LDR with my boy. it's been 1 year. we're 3785.3 Kilometers away. it's hard. my parents told me that our relationship is not healthy, cuz we are not seeing eachother. they want me to find another guy here. but for me he's the one. we're getting closer eventhough we're apart, we get wiser and more mature. No more drama queen and lil boy fights. and just like you said, this is a big test for every couple in same situation which has to be done. i wish i can pass this test.

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  20. Good luck girl! You can definitely make it work if you both put in the effort. As for it being a healthy relationship...seeing each other is important, but just do so when possible. I believe that communication is far more important under the circumstances..keep an open and honest relationship and you're on the right track.


    Our parents always have our best interest in mind though, they just want what they think is best for you. Maybe you could talk to them about it?

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  21. Love this! In a LDR with only 60 miles between us, but those 60 miles still feel long! What I feel most powering is that no one thought a relationship like ours would work but it has and we are going on our 2 years. It makes your love truly unique when you value love and time differently than other couples, and I know we hold something special. Glad to know there are more great LDR couples!

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  22. Hey, I getcha. Any distance is still distance. Having to rely on conversation without seeing each other will definitely create a relationship you wouldn't have without the distance.

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  23. I am really glad I found this post! I started dating my current boyfriend in the begining of the school year. We live in different states and christmas break will be the first time we are apart since we have started dating. I have been really worried about the distance but it is nice to know that it is possible!!!

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  28. It's tough for sure, but worth it!

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  32. MY MAN OF FOUR YEARS START CHEATING ON ME HE DON'T USE TO CALL ME, HE ALWAYS GOING OUT WITH OTHER GIRLS ANY TIME I CALLED HIM HE BOUNCE MY CALLS. I WAS SO WORRIED BECAUSE I LOVE HIM SO MUCH AND WE ALREADY PLAN FOR MARRIAGE AND I TRIED ALL I CAN TO MAKE SURE THAT HE COME TO HIS NORMAL SENSES BUT NOTHING WORKED OUT. THINGS WAS GETTING WORST A FRIEND TOLD ME TO CONTACT DR EMUA. THAT HE CAN HELP ME IN THIS SITUATION, AND I WAS A GIRL WHO DOSE NOT BELIEVE ON SPELL, SO THE LAST TIME I CALLED MY MAN HE PICKED MY CALL, ALL I COULD HEAR FROM HIM WAS THAT HE HAS GOT ANOTHER GIRL IN SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP I WAS SO CONFUSE AND I CALLED MY FRIEND (TRACY) AND TOLD HER WHAT I JUST HAD FROM MY MAN. SHE STILL REMIND ME OF DR EMUA, THAT IS THE ONLY PERSON WHO CAN HELP ME SOLVED MY PROBLEM BY BRINGING MY MAN BACK TO ME. SO THERE WAS NO OPTION FOR ME I TOLD HER TO SEND ME HIS EMAIL. THAT WAS HOW I CONTACT DR EMUA FOR HELP. DR EMUA ONLY TOLD ME THAT MY MAN WILL COME BACK IN THREE DAYS TIME AFTER CASTING THE SPELL HE TOLD ME MY MAN IS COMING TO ME IN THREE DAYS TIME . AFTER TWO DAYS THE NEXT MORNING MAKING IT THIRD DAYS MY MAN TRULY CAME BACK TO ME AND BEG FOR FORGIVENESS, AND I ACCEPT ALL HIS APOLOGIES BECAUSE I LOVE HIM SO MUCH AFTER THREE WEEKS WE GOT MARRIED, WE ARE NOW LIVING TOGETHER . I THANK DR EMUA FOR ALL HE HAS DONE IN My LIFE GOD WILL CONTINUOUSLY GIVE HIM THE POWER OF HELPING PEOPLE. YOU CAN ALSO CONTACT HIM FOR HELP VIA HIS EMAILS dremuahelphome@outlook.com OR dremuahelphome@gmail.com or call him +2347063628174 I PRAY THIS MY TESTIMONY BRING PEACE,LOVE AND UNITY TO THOSE BROKEN HOMES AND RELATIONSHIP.

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  33. i want to thank God for using DR. OKAYA as my source of savior after 6year of joblessness and my lover left me alone for 9 years,Have just been heart broken until i go in contact with dr. OKAYA after i saw a ladies testimony on how she was helped by this same dr. OKAYA,So i decided to get in contact with him and when i told him all my problems he laughed and said this is not a problem that everything will be ok in 3 days time.Exactly the 3rd day my ex lover called me i was shocked and what surprise me the most was that a company i applied for over 5 month called me and said i should resume work as soon as possible.Am so grateful to dr OKAYA if you wish in contacting him OKAYASPELLHELP@OUTLOOK.COM or is cell number +2348078291904. He do cast the spell as following

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  34. i want to thank God for using DR. OKAYA as my source of savior after 6year of joblessness and my lover left me alone for 9 years,Have just been heart broken until i go in contact with dr. OKAYA after i saw a ladies testimony on how she was helped by this same dr. OKAYA,So i decided to get in contact with him and when i told him all my problems he laughed and said this is not a problem that everything will be ok in 3 days time.Exactly the 3rd day my ex lover called me i was shocked and what surprise me the most was that a company i applied for over 5 month called me and said i should resume work as soon as possible.Am so grateful to dr OKAYA if you wish in contacting him OKAYASPELLHELP@OUTLOOK.COM or is cell number +2348078291904. He do cast the spell as following

    (1) If you want your ex back.

    (2) you need a divorce in your relationship

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  35. Marissa J. KortusMay 29, 2015 at 9:37 PM

    Being in an LDR is hard. But it has some benefits too!
    My boyfriend (who lives 1100 miles away) and I can talk about literally anything and everything. We have learned to communicate really well, because right now that's all we have. Just last night we were talking about different types of birth control and a couple days ago we were talking about what to grow in an ideal garden.
    Another benefit is that when you are 1100 miles apart it makes it a lot easier to stay sexually pure. When we are together we have very set standards that we are sticking too, but its tough. I know if we saw each other all the time it would be even harder to stay pure.
    Thank for the post Mary!

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  36. I love how being in a LDR can force to really grow your communication. There are definitely positives of a long distance relationship. But I can't wait for mine to be ending soon, with a move to SC!

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